When we watch celebrities, politicians, or business leaders speak on
television or in public, they seem so at ease that we may wonder: are
great speakers made, or are they just born that way? While it is true
that some individuals are definitely born with this gift, the
overwhelming majority of effective speakers have trained themselves to
be so. Either they have received formal media training or they have
delivered so many speeches that over time they’ve learned what works for
them. So what is the true secret to effective public speaking?
Here are seven principles of public speaking that I’ve developed in
my role as a media coach. Keep them in mind the next time you find
yourself presenting before a group.
1. Perception: Stop trying to be a great “public” speaker.People
want to listen to someone who is interesting, relaxed, and
comfortable. In the routine conversations we have every day, we have no
problem being ourselves. Yet too often, when we stand up to give a
speech, something changes. We focus on the “public” at the expense of
the “speaking.” To become an effective public speaker, you must do just
the opposite: focus on the speaking and let go of the “public.” Think
of it as a conversation between you and the audience. If you can carry
on a relaxed conversation with one or two people, you can give a great
speech. Whether your audience consists of two people or two thousand
and whether you’re talking about the latest medical breakthrough or what
you did today at work, be yourself; talk directly to people and make a
connection with them.
2. Perfection: When you make a mistake, no one cares but you. Even
the most accomplished public speaker will make a mistake at some
point. Just keep in mind that you’ll notice more than anyone in your
audience. The most important thing a speaker can do after making a
mistake is to keep going. Don’t stop and—unless the mistake was truly
earth shattering—never apologize to the audience for a minor slip.
Unless they are reading the speech during your delivery, the audience
won’t know if you left out a word, said the wrong name, or skipped a
page. Because “to err is human,” a mistake can actually work for you,
because it allows you to connect with your audience. People don’t want
to hear from someone who is “perfect;” they will relate much more easily
to someone who is real.
3. Visualization: If you can see it, you can speak it.Winners
in all aspects of life have this in common: they practice
visualization to achieve their goals. Sales people envision themselves
closing the deal; executives picture themselves developing new ventures;
athletes close their eyes and imagine themselves making that basket,
hitting that home run, or breaking that record. The same is true in
public speaking. The best way to fight anxiety and to become a more
comfortable speaker is to practice in the one place where no one else
can see you—your mind. If you visualize on a consistent basis, your mind
will become used to the prospect of speaking in public, and pretty soon
you’ll conquer any feelings of anxiety.
4. Discipline: Practice makes perfectly good.Your
goal is not to be a perfect public speaker. There is no such thing.
Your goal is to be an effective public speaker. Like anything else in
life, it takes practice. We too often take communication for granted
because we speak to people everyday. But when your prosperity is
directly linked to how well you perform in front a group, you need to
give the task the same attention as if you were a professional athlete.
Remember, even world champion athletes practice every day. Try taking a
class where you practice giving speeches.
5. Description: Make it personal.Whatever the
topic, audiences respond best when speakers personalize their
communication. Take every opportunity to put a face on the facts of your
presentation. People like to hear about other people’s experiences—the
triumphs, tragedies, and everyday humorous anecdotes that make up their
lives. Tell stories. Whenever possible, insert a personal-interest
element in your public speaking. Not only will it make your listeners
warm up to you, but it will also do wonders at putting you at ease.
After all, on what subject is your expertise greater than on the subject
of you?
6. Inspiration: Speak to serve.For a twist that
is sure to take much of the fear out of public speaking, take the focus
off of yourself and shift it to your audience. After all, the objective
is not to benefit the speaker but to benefit the audience, through
teaching, motivation, or entertainment. So in all of your preparation
and presentation, you should think about your purpose. How can you help
your audience members achieve their goals?
7. Anticipation: Always leave ‘em wanting more.One of the most valuable lessons I have learned in my years in communications
is that when it comes to public speaking, less is usually more. I don’t
think I’ve ever left a gathering and heard someone say, “I wish that
speaker had spoken longer.” On the other hand, I imagine that you
probably can’t count the times that you’ve thought, “I’m glad that
speech is over. It seemed to go on forever!” So surprise your audience.
Always make your presentation just a bit shorter than anticipated. If
you’ve followed the first six principles outlined here you already have
their attention and interest, and it’s better to leave your listeners
wishing you had spoken for just a few more minutes than squirming in
their seats waiting for your speech finally to end.
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